Getting no space from each other can make you feel a little claustrophobic and in need of some me-time. When we start a relationship with someone we don’t often think that our main relationship goal is to spend every waking moment with that other person for months and months on end. The outside influences that help keep us nourished and balanced, like seeing friends and family, going to gigs, park runs or whatever you enjoy have been completely removed from our lives.
Because of this, we come to rely on our partners for everything. Holly says this can become too much to manage. This can put a strain on any healthy relationship, but if cracks were there to start with it may leave couples wondering whether they would be getting so cross with each other if they were able to engage in their normal social activities or is the relationship actually in trouble.
The solution: Be honest
Bottling everything up and pretending everything is OK might sound much easier, but sharing your frustrations with each other can really help. Letting your partner know you are struggling is positive. It’s OK to not be OK during these strange times. Getting some space and me-time will help you both recharge emotionally and feel more resilient to what COVID-19 is throwing at us. It will also help give you more perspective to view the relationship in an objective way, rather than responding to issues from a position of being frazzled and burnt out.
