Feeling overwhelmed by real and feared relationship problems
Feeling overwhelmed and helpless is common, especially if you’ve been avoiding your relationship problems for months or years. Some couples avoid or deny their problems for decades of marriage! This makes everything too overwhelming and big to deal with….so you continue to ignore the problems. It seems easier to “deal with it tomorrow.” Of course, tomorrow never comes.
The solution: Break your problems down into smaller, more manageable chunks. If your most pressing problem is your addiction to gambling, for example, start talking to people who can help you cope with your compulsion. If this seems like too much, write down a description of your ideal life. What do you want your life to look like in one year? How can you create the conditions it takes to get there? If this makes you feel even more overwhelmed, brainstorm other solutions to your problem. Take it slow, easy, simple. One step at a time.
